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拒绝被骗 如何分分钟识破谎言?

People lie all the time, but depending on how skilled they are, it can be difficult to determine when someone is lying to you. Do you know how to recognize the signs that someone is lying to you? Some of the signs are obvious while others are more subliminal, but there are ways to catch someone in a lie, you just need to know what they are. Here are some easy ways to recognize liars and catch lies:

1.A person who is lying to you won’t make eye contact with you or they make too much eye contact.

If a person is lying they may feel you are scrutinizing them and they will look down at the floor or away from your eyes. Some people try to stare you in the face in a deliberate way because they feel like making eye contact will make what they are saying more believable.

2.Liars avoid using contractions….

“I did NOT have sexual intercourse with that woman”. This is an attempt by the liar to be absolutely clear what they mean but it ends up making the story a lot less believable. Stalling tactics are also common. The liar may ask you a question like “where di d you get that information?” while they try to back peddle and come up with an explanation for your question.

3.Weird Body Language.

Liars often fidget, turn away from the person to whom they are speaking, blink rapidly, smile less and have pitch changes in their tone of voice. They may cross their arms which is a sign of being “closed” or trying not to reveal too much information. Sometimes people fidget excessively when they are lying. They could fidget with a part of their body or touch parts of their face, an ear or a nose or play with keys or another item that they have in their hand.

4. Liars provide additional information without being asked for it.

They seem to think that by embellishing their story you will find it more believable. What happens is they tend to make the story more complicated and less believable. The more elaborate the story, the more likely that it is a fabrication and nothing near the truth.

5.A person who is telling a lie will get defensive.

They will do everything in their power to deflect your attention away from themselves and will get angry that you are questioning their innocence. People who are telling the truth tend to go the opposite way and go on the offense. This will become obvious to you when you are trying to have a conversation with a person and they try to change the subject or move the conversation in a different direction.

6.Over-embellish insignificant details.

If a person is lying they tend to over-embellish insignificant details while avoiding important ones. Exaggerated details make the liar feel better, but the person who is hearing the lie will start to get the feeling that something is definitely amiss. This can make it easier to catch a person in a lie because you can jot down details of the story that you are being told and then ask questions about those details later to see if they are still the same.

7.Watch the eye movements of the person.

If a person is remembering something they tend to move their eyes up and in a left direction if they are right handed. If they are making something up, their eyes will move up and to the right. Left handed people do similar movements but in the opposite direction. People blink rapidly when they lie or they may rub their eyes. Eyelids also tend to close a little bit longer than a normal blink if a person hears something or sees something they don’t like.

8.Some people sweat more when they are telling a lie.

Measuring perspiration is one of the markers of a polygraph test but is not an indication on

its own of a person telling a lie. Some people sweat more when they are nervous or if they are shy. Sweating together with blushing, trembling and difficulty swallowing can be a clear better indication that someone that is lying to you.

9.Watch for micro expressions.

The true measure of a person’s emotions will quickly flash across their face at the beginning of a conversation. It could be a half smile that lasts for five seconds or a worried look that lasts the same amount of time. These micro expressions are sometimes noticed by people subconsciously and they tend to know right away that a person is lying, although they do not know how they know this. A lot of people tend to feel a “gut instinct” about something such as a person who is lying, and this is usually as a result of seeing a micro-expression during a conversation. The micro expression is quick but if you watch for it you can see it.

10.Ask the liar to repeat their story again.

If the story is fabricated it can be very difficult to remember all of the details that they gave to you the first time around. You may notice that the person looks very uncomfortable and worried about what they are going to say to you when you ask them to repeat details that they clearly made up the first time around.

人们都会撒谎,区别只是撒谎技术的高下;有时,很难判断一个人是否在对你撒谎。你知道

通过哪些信号来分辨一个人是否在对你撒谎么?有些信号十分明显,而有些则稍纵即逝难以察觉。不过,总有办法能识别谎言,而你所要知道的就是了解这些信号。下面就一起来看看如何轻松发现撒谎者和他们的谎言吧~

撒谎者或避免眼神交流,或眼神交流太过频繁

撒谎者总觉得你在仔细审视他们,于是,他们或盯着地板,或避免与你有眼神交流。然而,有些撒谎者则会故意直视你,以为这种眼神交流会让自己的话更有信服力。

撒谎者不爱用缩略语

“我绝对没有和那个女人上过床。”撒谎者试图以此特别强调自己要表达的含义,结果却让他们的故事听起来更假。此外,缓兵之计也是撒谎者常用的伎俩,当他们难以圆谎或不能想出合理解释时,他们也许会反问你一些问题,例如:“你从哪里听说的?”。

奇怪的肢体语言

撒谎者常常坐立不安,不愿与听话者面对面,总是眨眼睛,一脸严肃,或音调、音高发生改变。他们也许会抱着胳膊,传递出一种“封闭”的信号,或不愿透露过多信息。有时,人们在撒谎时会表现的十分烦躁。他们的身体会动来动去,或一直摸自己的脸、耳朵或鼻子,或一直把玩手中的钥匙或其他小物件。

撒谎者会提供多余信息

撒谎者认为经过润色的故事听起来更真实。然而,他们的故事编的越复杂,可信性越低。故事越详尽,编造的可能性越高,真实性越低。

撒谎者通常高度戒备

撒谎者总是不择手段地转移你的注意力,一旦被质疑就很容易生气。说实话的人则恰恰相反,他们会一直为自己辩护。与人对话时,如果对方总想转移话题,或将对话引到其他地方,那么很明显:TA在对你说谎。

过度修饰无关紧要的细节

撒谎者大都喜欢避重就轻,过分描述无关紧要的细节而忽略关键部分。过多的细节描述让撒谎者自我感觉良好,而听话的人却会发现有些什么被忽略了。此时,想要判断这个人是否撒谎很简单:只要略记下他们所说的一些细节,过会儿再问一遍,看两次的描述是否一致。

注意眼部动作

以惯用右手的人为例,眼睛向左上方看表示他们在回忆,向右上方看则多半在撒谎。左撇子则恰恰相反。人们撒谎时会快速眨眼,或揉眼睛。当人们听到或看到他们不喜欢的东西时,眨眼时眼睛闭上的时间也较平时更长。

撒谎者较平时更易流汗

流汗程度是测谎仪测试的一项指标,但不是唯一指标。一些人在紧张或害羞时也会流更多汗。如果流汗同时出现脸红、战栗或吞咽困难,难么很明显,这个人极有可能在说谎。

观察微表情

一个人真实的感情会在对话开始的时候在他们的脸上一闪而过。而撒谎者脸上则一般会出现长达5秒钟的微笑或担忧表情。这些微表情有时会被听话人下意识地捕捉到,并立刻明白对方在撒谎,虽然他们也不知道自己的想法从何而来。很多人会凭“直觉”知道有人在撒谎,而这通常要归功于在对话中捕捉微表情。微表情虽然一闪而过,但只要留意观察仍能捕捉到。

要求撒谎者复述故事

如果某个故事是编造的,那么撒谎者很难记得第一次所说的所有细节。所以,当你要求他们复述那些初次编造的细节时,说谎者会显得十分不安与担忧。

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